Photo: AfEX " We know that extreme physical pain drives out language," Julian Barnes writes in Nothing to be Frightened Of , but "it's dispiriting to learn that mental pain does the same." The "nothing" of Barnes's title is death, the thought of which produces an emotion, fear – fear so intense, so pervasive, as to be at times disabling. Death as an event, a fact rather than an emotion, is literally the Stünde Null, the zero hour, of our lives. None of us is excepted, death's hit rate is 100%. From the perspective of the defunct, we know very little. Dead men don't write books. (We do get the occasional insight. After suffering a major heart attack, the Australian billionaire Kerry Packer is said to have whispered to his sons, "I've been to the other side, and there's fuck all there.") Those of us who are still standing after a death – what CS Lewis termed "the club of the left-over living" – experience an ...